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Mental Peace

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been looking for a place that I can call my own where I can write, listen to music, look at my art books and not worry about the pressure or expectations that life hurls at me. Am I delusional to think that a place like that exists, perhaps, but I still long for a place where I can just “be”. My living situation since arriving in New York has been nothing short of tumultuous. I tend to attract people who like to control my every move and who enjoy micro-managing me. This isn’t new to me, but I am in place where I’m exhausted with having to “squish” myself into what the people in my life expect of me. Rejecting “the squish” has happened not only at the place where I lay my head but also in my church life and relationships. I just want to be free and to do what makes me happy and unfortunately it’s taken me a long time to understand my needs and more importantly to understand that my needs are important. I’ve learned to divorce people who rob me of my happiness or who force me into places or conversations that put me in mental anguish. I realize that it’s not my job to save people or to smile so hard that my teeth hurt or to ignore emotionally abusive behaviour. I’m no longer baited into conversations that don’t promote resolutions and I now accept that I’m not psychic, so reading people’s minds and anticipating their needs is no longer my burden. It it easy? Absolutely not, it’s taxing, uncomfortable and humbling but the peace that I’ve received has been remarkable. Loving myself wholly is a lot of work but it’s the most rewarding work I’ve ever done.


On a lighter note, how was your weekend? Did you do anything fun? I watched ‘Miss Peregrine’s ome for Pecuilar Children: I HATED IT

I got a lamb pita at a food truck in Harlem:I LOVED IT

I listened to Solange’s NEW album, “A Seat at the Table” and it”s glorious as expected.

Off for more adventures in this busy and itimidating city!



MUST BUY: Pier 1 Import: Asian Spice



Many moons ago, I used to buy Pier 1 Import Reed Diffuser. They smelled great and were a wonderful alternative to room sprays. My Mom recently rediscovered them and has been nagging me to buy ‘Asian Spice”. Well, I picked one up yesterday and I’m a idiot for having waited so long. I’m huge on aromatherapy. I love my place to smell amazing and I use different scents  to combat stress, insomnia, and my general mood. The concept of how reed diffuser work is pretty simple. The scent infiltrates the reeds and leaves your room smelling amazing. They also last for up to 2 months which is economical and they’re reusable. Pier ! describes Asian Spice® oil as being —a fusion of clove and grassy vetiver, spiced with hints of patchouli, coriander and sweet musk. It truly smells heavenly and it’s a great scent to de-stress with. If you’d like to try Asian Spice or the wide vatiety of diffusers diffusers that Pier 1 Import has, follow the link! here

What’s your go to scent in times of happiness or stress? Are you a candle, room spray or reed diffuser kind of gal? If you have a favourite scent, please let me know in the comments!





This has been an awesome week! While some areas in my life have finally began to flourish, there’s other  aspects of my life that are beginning to crumble. Over the next few days, I’m going to have to take the time to make an assessment over my life choices and the different paths that I want to take. This won’t be easy as I feel like “emotional tumbleweed” most of the time. I decided that I’d write down some of my goals as a way to purge and declutter  and to keep myself on task.

  1. I want to focus on writing and producing pieces that center on beauty and wellness
  2. I want to start a graduate program in African-American Studies
  3. I want to heal myself physically and emotionally
  4. I want to find diverse and exciting ways to generate income
  5. I want to start singing again
  6. I want to live somewhere where I’m free to be creative
  7. I want to live in New York for the next 5 years
  8. I want to be happy

These goals are attainable and I plan to break them into mini-goals until I can successfully tick them off. Ae you a goal-setter? Is there anything you’re dying to do but you don’t where to start? There is power in the pen and until you write down your goals and what you want to do to make yourself happy, you’ll always be in the same spot, banging your head against the wall. Let’s start a goal chain! Leave 2 goals in the comment section and tell me how you plan to achieve them.




Taraji P. Henson for MAC

I woke up this morning and started my morning ritual, emailing clients and sipping on tea. I literally shrieked when I read through my email from MAC reminding me today that I could purchase Taraji’s new collection online. Without hesitation, I oredered everything except the eyeliner and brush. It’s not often that you see women of colour helming a beauty line, especially dark skinned women, so I’m very excited for Taraji and happy to support her on this venture. My day got even brighter when I got a invite view the collection up close and personal with  beauty guru Isabel Bodeya. Have you bought anything from the collection? If you haven’t already, please do!




Beauty Review: Barlean’s Essential Woman


barleans_essential_woman_capsI’m not the best at taking my vitamins but I understand how important they are to my overall health. Of late, I’ve been really interested in how my hormones work and I’ve been adding supplements to help boost my immune system, ease premenstrual symptoms and to promote growth and glow with skin and nails. A friend of mine told me about Barlean’s Essential Woman, it combines flaxseed oil, rosemary oil, and evening primrose oil which is essential for overall health and hormone balancing. I started using it during a time when my cramps were really bad and my hormonal acne was out of control. After two weeks of talking these supplements my skin calmed down and my cramps are much more manageable. I also take magnesium, black seed oil, B12 and probiotic. What’s in your medicine cabinet?



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TYM TIPS: Boscia’s Konjac Cleansing Sponge w. Bamboo Charcoal


bosciaFor years I’ve covered up my skin imperfections with concealers and heavy foundations, last year I decided that instead of “covering” I was going to take the time to “heal”. Over the next few days, I’ll be sharing some of my favorite potions and lotions for clear and healthy skin. I discovered the Boscia “Konjac Cleanising Sponge with Bamboo Charcoal” two years ago and it’s the one of the most important steps in my beauty routine. We’ve been taught to use our hands and fingertips when you wash our face but that’s the perfect way to transfer dirt and bacteria to your face. 

From Sephora’s site:   “Konjac Cleansing Sponge With Bamboo Charcoal cleanses and exfoliates to deliver smoother, softer, brighter-looking skin while minimizing the appearance of pores and eradicating blemish-causing bacteria. Formulated for combination to oily skin, the konjac root absorbs debris and impurities, while the bamboo charcoal acts as a natural anitbacterial agent, to cleanse deeply and detoxify pores without irritation. Gentle enough for even the most sensitive of skin types, it can be used over the face, neck, and even the delicate undereye area. When used regularly, it helps draw out impurities, minimize the apearance of pores, and reduce blemish-causing bacteria”

My skin feels refreshed and my pesky hormonal pimples are no match the deep cleansing power in this palm-sized sponge, it also works very well with my exfoliating face cleansers. At $15 a sponge, they typically last 4-5 months and they’re easy to clean.  If you’re new to Boscia’s line, I suggest that you try their Tsubaki Beauty Oil and Luminizing Black Mask, both are staples in my beauty routine.  Have you ever tried any of their products? Let me know in the comments!

Happy Weekend


Summer Scents — TYM BEAUTY

check out the loot I got from The Body Shop

via Summer Scents — TYM BEAUTY

Summer Scents


I’m low-key obsessed with smelling amazing and I’m a hoarder of ALL things fig! When I walked into “The Body Shop” and saw their new scents, I got really excited. I picked up a few things and then a few more things and things quickly got out of control, LOL. I implore you to RUN to the nearest location and pick up these babies. Light but strong and romantic yet sultry. I can’t get enough of these scents. I also love that they’ll easily work in the fall and they smell great layered.

When was the last time you picked up something from the “The Body Shop?”

What did you get and more importantly, do you miss “Dewberry” as much as I do?


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